Embracing the Beautiful Chaos: As a Mom, Bonus Mom, and Business Owner By: Tiara Monson, Co-Owner of Bountiful Doulas

Being a Mom, a Bonus Mom, and a Business Owner Is... a LOT! 

People love to say motherhood is a balancing act, but honestly, most days, it feels like juggling knives while someone asks what's for dinner and you're still in yesterday's leggings. Add running a business to that. It's chaos and beauty all rolled into one.

I'm Tiara — mom, bonus mom, postpartum doula, and co-owner of a growing doula agency in Utah. And while I don't have it all figured out (who does?), I've learned a lot about navigating motherhood, loss, identity, and entrepreneurship — all at the same time. This post isn't about perfect balance. It's about what the juggle really looks like and how I've found ways to stay grounded in the middle of it.

Young Motherhood Wasn’t Easy– But It Made Me Who I Am

I had my first son at 18. I didn't know what questions to ask. I didn't think I could ask questions. My birth turned into a C-section, and breastfeeding was a disaster right out of the gate. Then came the pain meds and that's when I found out I had a high opioid tolerance. Recovery was brutal. Physically, emotionally, all of it. Four years later, I had my second baby. I thought I'd be more prepared. I was older, wiser, and more confident. But instead of support, I got fear-based pressure from doctors convincing me that a VBAC was dangerous. So, another C-section. And again, postpartum hit hard. I struggled with PMADs after both births, but I didn't even have the language for it at the time. I didn't know how to advocate for myself — I just thought something was wrong with me.

It turns out something was wrong. But it wasn't me—it was the lack of support. I didn't know what I needed because no one ever taught me what was available.

Turning My Pain Into Purpose

That's what pulled me into postpartum work. I never wanted anyone to feel as alone, confused, or overlooked as I did. McKayla and I were both deep in the postpartum stage at the same time, carrying the weight of how hard it had been — and how little real support we had. We'd both done it the hard way, that lit a fire in us to make sure other families didn't have to. We knew there had to be a better way, and we were ready to build it.

The ones who cook the meal.

Answer the middle-of-the-night text.

Help you learn baby cues and feeding tips.

Sit with you while you cry.

Hold your hand when you're trying to trust your gut.

That's how Bountiful Doulas was born.

From Survival Mode to Hiring a Team

Starting our agency was a slow grind. We both had full-time jobs while we built this thing from the ground up. Then, as if the universe knew we were ready, we both got let go of those jobs around the same time. It felt scary, but it was exactly what needed to happen. We dove in full-time and haven't looked back.

Since then, we've hired 10 incredible doulas. Each one shares our heart and brings something powerful to the families we serve. We've grown this business while raising our babies, healing our stories, and navigating real life the whole way through.

Let's Talk About Balance (Not the Pinterest Kind Though)

I've learned that balance isn't a perfect pie chart. It's not "equal time" or color-coded planners or doing everything all at once.

Balance is about reading the room. It's about knowing the season you're in and being okay with shifting your focus when something (or someone) needs more of you.

Some weeks, my family needs me more. Other times, I'm buried in consults, in-person support, or supporting our team. Some days it's survival. Some days it's thriving. And every once in a while, I take a long hot shower without anyone knocking on the door or my phone going off— and I call that a win.

You Don't Have to Do It All to Be Doing It Well

If you're a parent navigating work, family, healing, or big life shifts — I see you. You don't need to be perfect. You need to know you're not alone. You're allowed to ask for help. You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to create your own rhythm and routine. 

That's what we do as doulas — and it's what Breezy Babies does so beautifully with lactation support. We show up, we guide, and we remind people that they're doing better than they think.

My juggle won't look like yours — that's exactly the point. There's no right way to do motherhood, business, or healing. You just find your anchors, ride the waves, and trust yourself a little more every time.

If you're in the thick of it, you're not alone — and you're not messing it up. You're just living real life, and that's allowed to be a little messy.

Written By: Tiara Monson

(Co-owner of Bountiful Doulas)